TTC boy - update - It's a girl!

[atomic sagebrush]

I'm not totally sure it is of any benefit for me to pore over your last month's chart, but did you have sex after that positive OPK?

[babybluedreamer]

HI sorry my reply didnt send for some reason.

Yes. I got the positive OPK on FRIDAY We DTD on Fri eve, Saturday 9.30 a.m., Sunday 9.30 PM.

Should we DTD tonight? My temp went up by 0.04 degreesF this morning. This is a bit like last month when it then dipped and rose again around day 25 as you noticed.

Do you think we need to keep DTD today (monday eve) bearing in mind I got my OPK Positive on Friday morning around 6 a.m.

xx THANK YOU xxx

[babybluedreamer]

One more thing - my CM is most definitely creamy.
and my cervix is (I THINK... cant be certain) still soft,back /high but getting firmer.... in case that helps

i really appreciate your thoughts. xxx

[atomic sagebrush]

Having sex after you think you ovulated for blue is never a bad thing, it's totally up to you. You can also try BD every other day.

I don't believe that you can tell the day of ovulation from CM or changes in cervix. It is NOT something that happens suddenly, even though I know some sites and Dr. Shettles like to pretend that's the case, it is really not something that is like flipping a switch.

[babybluedreamer]

okay thank you. that might be my shettles confusion that if you cm turns creamy its no longer boy frinedly or somethign!!! the reason i ask is that my OH is out a lot in the evening so we cant really just ad hoc DTD and need to make sure we make time for it if that is the recommended path to follow i will make sure i do that!! my temp rose to a high today... not sure what that means ! but we didnt DTD last night monday. so i am nervous we have scrwed up here. I REALLY hope I can post a successful BOY SWAY in 10 weeks time

thank you once again for your help and support. xxxx

[atomic sagebrush]

Can you post your chart again?

We have not found CM consistency to be predictive of whose sways work out and whose don't. It just really doesn't work. I got my daughter by BD when I still had EWCM (and this turned out to be O Day!!) then I ended up getting EWCM for 2 more days after that. If I had waited to BD for her till after my CM dried up, I never would have even gotten pregnant since the egg was dead by then! I know some sites like to make this sound like it's some surefire method that works for everyone, but studies show EWCM only predicts within 3 days that you've ovulated. So you can have EWCM that dried up but then not O for 2 more days, or have EWCM for 2 days after O (like I did) or anything in betwen. The natural famly planning methods are great to help avoid pregnancy but they CAN'T pin down O to the day or predict the gender of the baby you will conceive.

[babybluedreamer]

Hi Atomic

Many thanks again!

I signed up to fertility friend and am charting on there as well. I attach my chart.
I am worried we DTD far to early - we did it on cycle days 18 - 22
but i think i maybe Ovulated on day 21? or 22 at best...FF.jpg

[atomic sagebrush]

I can't make the chart large enough to give you the specific days but the crosshairs are wrong on FF too. You ovulated later than it's looking like. Let me repost the other chart to compare them

[atomic sagebrush]

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[atomic sagebrush]

ok I can see the dates better on the other one.

YOu seem to have some pattern going on where you are having a temp dip but then do not seem to be ovulating for a couple days after that. The see-sawish pattern of your temps is confusing the algorithms on the app and FF...since you have some high temps in the FP, it's fooling the apps into thinking you have ovulated when your temps are still quite low and I am not at all convinced (especially since your OPK is coming at the wrong time) that you are ovulating till that big temp rise. This is also what I think is occurring on the other app as well, it's being tricked and then O is actually happening a few days later.

So, we need to keep going with attempts later on even after the apps are telling you that you ovulated.