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Post FET - 5dp5dt - Keeping control for 1 more day
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, July 19th, 2014 at 10:02 AM (6491 Views)
[INDENT][/INDENT]Control. It's the thing we get so little of during HT. Lack of control and straight-up bad news are among the reasons it's so hard. Oh and hormone fluctuations, intramuscular shots, money....ok so there's more.
But lack of control - that's a biggie. Waiting for an af. Waiting for the next appt. Waiting for results. Waiting for lining to grow. Waiting for the days to pass.
There's a bit of control in my hands right now. 5dp5dt. HPTs are bought but planning not to use one until tomorrow. Beta on Tuesday.
It simply feels good to have control. It feels good to not be googling and obsessing (thank you jany for describing that so well). It feels good to enjoy my kids this morning and be actually present.
I have fear. In either direction, though obviously a lot more on one side. We get what we hope for, and our lives change. My career is affected. (To Jany's post - we have to be prepared to get what we want!)
We don't - and......there's where mind goes grey and hazy. I can't feel that yet. The obvious sadness. But more. I don't want to be there. I don't want to have to write the words.
I didn't do enough to prepare for the FET. I never got the nuts, I choked on the cayanne pepper, our pineapple froze. I tried not to pick up the baby but caved when it came to taking him out of the crib. I got 5 1/2-6 hrs sleep a night this week, a ton less than I need or normally get.
Putting it down now so my guilt is bare and I can move on. I have a stressful long-hours job, but I also just lack good self discipline. I could never have swayed well - that's at least one learning from this.
Big sigh. Feels like being on a precipice, the last day of (this) process. Which has its own little weird sadness, just for the process and excitement itself. Would not have predicted that.