ttc thread - swaying again in 2017 :)

[4blue2pink]

Hi 4blue2pink,

Thanks a lot for this thread! It had my attention immediately since we lost our precious daughter at 30 weeks gestation last June. So first of all, I'm very sorry for your loss. This is also for you Mrs Theatrical! I'm always amazed how many people need to go through this horrible pain of losing a child. It shouldn't be happening!
Since this was our first child and we were so ready to welcome a baby in our lives, we decided in September to try again (and now it was even more important that it's a girl).

I must say that the sway you described looks very much like mine, except for the exercise (I tried to do it 4x a week). I'm also not a fan of coffee and alcohol so that's been left out.
I'm actively swaying since September but I already had a very girlfriendly lifestile, and even more after the loss. I barely ate after the loss because I was feeling so terrible. So when I discovered this site and purchased a personal plan in September, I also started eating vegetarian (I didn't eat a lot of meat anyway so it's not hard for me). Apparently I got pregnant with the first try (but didn't know because AF arrived) but it became a mc at 7 weeks. But now, I took a pregnancy test last week and I got a BFP again I'm just worried because I don't have any symptoms yet and I'm going for a blood draw tomorrow.

How long did it take for you after your loss that you got pregnant again? Any more tips maybe?
I just really hope I can get a girl; I always wanted a girl and now with this loss it's even more important

sigrid i am so sorry to hear about your daughter, to have that happen in your first pregnancy just seems so much more cruel and horrific, i was lucky that when i lost my girl i already had a boy so i knew i could make it through a pregnancy i just had to face the fear.. in a morbid way its nice to see so many on this thread who have had losses, hopefully it will offer support being around people who understand <3

i absolutely understand the need for you to have another girl, i was in a very bad way for a long time after my loss too. your sway does seem very similar to mine! and mine was successful so i think your in with a great shot huge congratulations on your bfp!! my fingers are crossed for a healthy happy easy pregnancy for you with a beautiful baby girl at the end of it

after my loss i was pregnant again after only 5 weeks!! i had a straightforward full term pregnancy that resulted in my 2nd son my main tip for you now you have your bfp is to stay calm.. easier said than done i know.. but what will be, will be and you are powerless to control this pregnancy as terrifying as that thought is!! just because you had such a tragic outcome last time round does not mean it will happen again!! you can do this we are all here for you, having no symptoms is OK i had no symptoms early on with most of mine, stay positive and keep us all updated after your blood draw etc we will all be thinking of you xx

[4blue2pink]

Thank you. 6 years tomorrow, I hope you are feeling ok? I'm sure it must be so hard each time the anniversary comes around Did you say you don't know why you lost her?

There's an increased chance I could get another hematoma with a subsequent pregnancy, but I can't live in fear. My first two pregnancies (with my boys) were very easy. Now I will be classed as super high risk if we do conceive again.


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yes 6 years tomorrow since she was born.. the anniversaries have become easier but the pain will never fully go away if that makes sense?
yes we had a full post mortem including placenta tests and i had swabs and a million blood tests and everything came back normal, i was fine and baby was 100% normal and healthy as was the placenta and cord.. it seems her heart just stopped and we will never know why, which has made it harder to cope with i must admit.

is a hematoma like a large blood clot that forms behind the placenta and pushes it off the wall? or have i got that wrong? im not very medically minded im afraid!! would they scan you more frequently next time and is there anything they could do if another hematoma was detected?

i admire the courage it must take for you to try again, everything crossed you have a positive outcome xx

[4blue2pink]

Thought I'd pop in -- hoping to have a son. I've been actively "preswaying" for a boy since I found this site almost a year ago exactly! I started swaying more thoroughly after we had an oopsy pregnancy between 3-4 months postpartum which ended in a miscarriage. Not actively trying to get pregnant, mind you, but definitely don't want to get caught out again since it was a little ridiculous how we even got pregnant that time...

Before my DD, I was ultra LE. One meal a day, if that, tons of exercise, no red meat, lots of coffee and alcohol, etc. My DH and I are frequent BDers, so I'm the opposite of some -- I know more than 1 attempt can still get a girl if all other things are dotted and crossed!

TP! how are you ive not seen you about for a while!! im so sorry to see that you have had a loss, life can be so cruel i hope you are ok? how is your little girl she must be getting big now!

i truly believe you will get your boy as long as you keep on track with your diet, you really do strike me as a boy mum and im not just saying that to blow smoke up your arse i really mean it!! sending you all my blue dust and hoping for a sticky blue bean for when you decide to try

your so right diet and lifestyle are key arent they!! but i do think 1 attempt is a strong tactic too xx

[4blue2pink]

Oh hello everyone, hope ye don't mind me joining this lovely thread ...day 2 of the le diet here too so nice to be part of a group who are all in it together! Had 3 attempts last Sep, Oct and Nov but didn't conceive, so technically I've been on the le diet on and off for 6 mths really. I've 3 wonderful little boys but everyday I long for a daughter .. the feeling just won't go away and every where I see little baby girls I get a Little bit jealous which I hate. Anyway going to attempt again in Feb and pls God we all get our desired gender. Sorry for everyone's loss, I can't relate but I feel your pain. Sending ye all virtual hugs ❤

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hi amelia all welcome to join the more the merrier!! im on day 3 of LE now and a couple of others are day 2/3 so theres a few of us all at the same point which is good!! i completely understand the desire for a daughter and also the jealousy.. i was exactly the same before having my 2 younger girls it was very difficult and quite upsetting when everyone else was getting girls and i had lost my only girl.. fingers crossed for you for feb!! good luck and keep us posted xx

[amelia10]

hi amelia all welcome to join the more the merrier!! im on day 3 of LE now and a couple of others are day 2/3 so theres a few of us all at the same point which is good!! i completely understand the desire for a daughter and also the jealousy.. i was exactly the same before having my 2 younger girls it was very difficult and quite upsetting when everyone else was getting girls and i had lost my only girl.. fingers crossed for you for feb!! good luck and keep us posted xx

Thank you so much 4blue2pink .. absolutely everyone has girls apart from me, all my friends and family on my side and my husband's side. It would be like winning the lotto if it happened, I need to stay positive otherwise I get really down about it. I hope the last couple of months will stand to me even tho I broke it a few days, week here and there (like when I thought I was pregnant and resorted back to my old ways) so I hope Feb isn't too early which will be 6 weeks. And Xmas I might have overdid it on the choc but haven't gained any weight, have lost a stone over the last few months since starting le diet

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[amelia10]

hi amelia all welcome to join the more the merrier!! im on day 3 of LE now and a couple of others are day 2/3 so theres a few of us all at the same point which is good!! i completely understand the desire for a daughter and also the jealousy.. i was exactly the same before having my 2 younger girls it was very difficult and quite upsetting when everyone else was getting girls and i had lost my only girl.. fingers crossed for you for feb!! good luck and keep us posted xx

Thank you so much 4blue2pink .. absolutely everyone has girls apart from me, all my friends and family on my side and my husband's side. It would be like winning the lotto if it happened, I need to stay positive otherwise I get really down about it. I hope the last couple of months will stand to me even tho I broke it a few days, week here and there (like when I thought I was pregnant and resorted back to my old ways) so I hope Feb isn't too early which will be 6 weeks. And Xmas I might have overdid it on the choc but haven't gained any weight, have lost a stone over the last few months since starting le diet


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[Butterflies buttercups]

Amelia that sounds great what u have done so far losing that much weight well done!
I've lost about half a stone since November but haven't much to lose so it's better than nothing :-/

Try and keep positive I try even thoigh I wasn't good over Xmas and haven't got my exercise back together yet but will back tommorow after a sick bug and finally feeling better today xx


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[Throwaway_panther]

TP! how are you ive not seen you about for a while!! im so sorry to see that you have had a loss, life can be so cruel i hope you are ok? how is your little girl she must be getting big now!

i truly believe you will get your boy as long as you keep on track with your diet, you really do strike me as a boy mum and im not just saying that to blow smoke up your arse i really mean it!! sending you all my blue dust and hoping for a sticky blue bean for when you decide to try

your so right diet and lifestyle are key arent they!! but i do think 1 attempt is a strong tactic too xx

Thank you so much, that really means a lot to me! I'm so, so sorry the anniversary of your loss is coming up. Please share any feelings you want to here, I hope it can help <3 I'm certainly here for you.

And thank you for checking up on me despite it! I waffle back and forth -- I hate admitting it, but I might be dealing with a chemical pregnancy on top of it now. It seems like my body just loves to get pregnant but not necessarily stay pregnant -- even when we're not trying. I imagine I'd have been knocked up perpetually if I hadn't been on BC for so many years! It's hard to tell if my DD was a fluke, or if me being so close to having her is why this keeps happening... but according to my midwife and other resources, the body's way of showing you're not ready is by not ovulating, not by miscarrying :/

My DD is getting big though! She loves her solids, calls me mama, and is the happiest, cutest baby we've ever seen haha.

You're definitely right on the 1 attempt -- the sways keeps showing that's a good move. I just like to reassure the women swaying for girls who go, "Oops, we did more than one" or "I had so much CM!" that a girl can still be on the way for them -- look at me! Haha.

[sigrid86]

sigrid i am so sorry to hear about your daughter, to have that happen in your first pregnancy just seems so much more cruel and horrific, i was lucky that when i lost my girl i already had a boy so i knew i could make it through a pregnancy i just had to face the fear.. in a morbid way its nice to see so many on this thread who have had losses, hopefully it will offer support being around people who understand <3

i absolutely understand the need for you to have another girl, i was in a very bad way for a long time after my loss too. your sway does seem very similar to mine! and mine was successful so i think your in with a great shot huge congratulations on your bfp!! my fingers are crossed for a healthy happy easy pregnancy for you with a beautiful baby girl at the end of it

after my loss i was pregnant again after only 5 weeks!! i had a straightforward full term pregnancy that resulted in my 2nd son my main tip for you now you have your bfp is to stay calm.. easier said than done i know.. but what will be, will be and you are powerless to control this pregnancy as terrifying as that thought is!! just because you had such a tragic outcome last time round does not mean it will happen again!! you can do this we are all here for you, having no symptoms is OK i had no symptoms early on with most of mine, stay positive and keep us all updated after your blood draw etc we will all be thinking of you xx

Wow, what a sweet message, thank you so much . You describe it perfectly...I know the pain is equal with a second or third child, but like you said, you just know that you're capable of baring a living child. I'm not unfortunately. I really felt like I failed and my body isn't meant to carry a baby. I just hope it was really bad luck. That's at least what the specialist think (but they aren't 100% sure either). You're right, I'm glad I'm not alone in here. On the other hand, I don't wish this for anyone.

Good that you understand it I would just hate it if I lost my chance on having a daughter. And that seems double unfair since I 'had' a daughter.
The other thing with my sway is that I was/am also losing weight with it. But the problem is I'm already on low weight (always) and after the loss I didn't eat and now with this diet I lost another 2 kg's and I'm now on a BMI of 17,5 which is waaay too low :s So I really hope I stay pregnant this time because I'm having a very hard time gaining weight.

Ow 5 weeks!!! That must be very double, no? I totally wasn't ready for about 2 months after the loss.
That's a great tip thanks And you're actually very right...we just can't do anything about it. For the moment I'm really indifferent about my pregnancy. I think it's a sort of protection. How did you cope with it?
Great to hear that you didn't have any symptoms in the beginning. I had very soar and bigger boobs my last pregnancy, so it's a bit strange now...
Thank you so much for the support! I'm crossing my fingers for another pink bundle of joy XXX

[atomic sagebrush]

28 g protein is not enough!! 40-50 minimum and those with PCOS need to do more like 50-60

Eggs, dairy, beans, nuts, grain products all good non-meat sources of protein