How many attempts should I do and WHEN?? For pink and blue.

[atomic sagebrush]

All you can do is what you can do. Just try to get those attempts in! I would try to even go to CD 20 in case of delayed O.

[Naiad]

I hope it's OK to post this question here atomic. (I didn't think it really needed a new thread.) For swaying girl with the one-attempt method, do you think there is additional benefit in using a condom for any other times of intercourse, even if it's before the fertile window starts?

I'm asking because the author of the Babydust Method talks about this and believes that the less sperm inside us overall, the more our bodies might think it's a good idea to conceive a girl (because intercourse and opportunities aren't plentiful). She does in fact believe that no sex *at all* (just men releasing on their own) from period to ovulation is best, except for the one attempt.

I know the Babydust Method has some real flaws, in particular the timing aspect. But I thought that she maybe had an interesting point regarding the limiting of ejaculation inside. You seem to imply it's fine to release inside every 4 days max when swaying girl, so maybe you think it doesn't add anything to use a condom? After seeing many outcomes here I wonder if it's actually proven to make any difference.

[atomic sagebrush]

Yes it's absolutely ok!

Oh, so she also stole THAT from my research, interesting. That gal sure has sticky fingers. That idea, which I got from my research into evolutionary biology back in 2010-2014, I definitely mentioned for sure in essays predating the publication of the Babydust book in 2016 just like I did with the one attempt. It is in every blue sway plan I've ever done and is the reason why I've always been so emphatic on blue swayers having unprotected sex outside of the fertile window.

Thus I do agree that is something that may come into play. Now, I am not always as emphatic about this because I feel that being too restrictive on sexual intimacy for swaying, often backfires in other ways. It creates a lot of stress (that controlling kind of stress) which may undermine the sway, and many husbands hate that sort of thing - to their minds, we are supposed to be making a baby here, why do they have to use protection? This gets tense for people, furthering the control freakish stress, and can even cause marital issues. We have seen too many people where their husband gets so over swaying that he literally refuses to continue, not only with swaying, but with trying to conceive at all. So there are a lot of potential pitfalls.

We do have good results with every 4 day method sex and so it just cannot be the case that having sex only once per cycle is a prerequisite for swaying pink. You get the pitfalls of not having unprotected sex very often in terms of control freakishness and hubby rebelling, and it can't be swaying that much. That's why I don't put that much emphasis onto it. If you want to try having the rest of the attempts with protection and your husband is ok with that, that's totally fine by me, however.