unsucsesful attempt/doing opposite from boy conception?

[T.f.no2]

Sorta 2 questions in 1 really, those who have been unsucsesful an then got dh next time what dis you change to have success (I realise this prob isn't the best section for answers on this though now I've written it!) the other question, I'm sure I've read on here in the past but bit come across it this time yet, that we should do the opposite to what got us boys? is that right?

[maidentomother]

Doing the opposite of what you did when you got boys doesn't necessarily work and is not a tactic I would suggest in general, as often you get boys DESPITE some pink sways tactics. So it really depends on what exactly you were doing, and regardless, the strong pink sway tactics we recommend here will still be the best way to sway, in most cases.

[atomic sagebrush]

"Doing the opposite" DOES NOT WORK. That's an IG thing, really. There are things that sway and things that don't and the tendency is for people to look for this one dumb magic bullet that they can switch that will then make them conceive a different gender. But it's just so much more complicated than that and all of us are doing dozens, if not hundreds of things that might affect a sway. It never comes down to one little thing or even 10 things that we just "do the opposite" and get a different result.

So, it is totally possible to come into TTC 80% likely to get a boy (and our results with boy sways are bearing this out) and then do things that sway even like 20% (which would be a hugely successful sway tactic) and you'd still be 60% likely to have a boy. It would be silly to think, "well, since I got a boy doing this I better do the opposite" and end up doing something that will only make you MORE likely to conceive a boy than you were before!

Sometimes you get boys despite of X, Y, and Z and not because of them. the only way to know the difference is by looking at what is getting the most success for the most people the most consistently over time, and emulate that, even if you did it the last time. Swaying is one of the few times in life where doing the same thing may yield different results.

[T.f.no2]

Ah ok thanks for the explanation! :-)