Abstinence question

[TryingFor#3]

So I got a positive OPK this AM and was planning on DTD tonight for our boy sway and we were planning a 2 day abstinence. However, my husband just informed me that he released himself last night...UGH! What do I do now? That would make it a 1 day abstinence. I have been swaying my heart out for the past 3 months and drinking all kinds of awful drinks for the past 2 weeks and I am so done! I don't want to try next month due to timing issues with the due date, so if we pass this month, we would have to take 2 months off. But age is a factor as I am 36 and DH is 39 so I don't want to wait too long...Opinions please? Anyone get a boy with 1 day abstinence?

[True Blue]

You are swaying boy yes?
We don't use abstinence, it is fine that your DH released. What we do here is DTD every other day and then on getting first +opk we aim to DTD 3-5 times so for example the night of +opk, the following morning & night & again the following night.

I am swaying blue and this cycle my attempts turned out to be O-2, O-1 & O which I was happy with although ideally I would have liked another attempt in there.

[TryingFor#3]

Yes, swaying boy. Thank you for replying. Am I too late to try tonight if I got my first pos OPK this morning? We were going to try tonight and then tomorrow morning.

[True Blue]

Tonight and tommorow morning is perfect I would add in tomorrow night and the following night if at all possible.

[TryingFor#3]

Would adding tomorrow night push it to 0+12, which sways girl? Thank you for your thoughts!

[purple]

O+12 isn't really recommended here either. Anyway O+12 was no BDing at all until O+12 so you will be doing more than that.

Make sure you don't just do it once at OPK+ as one attempt is considered to be girl friendly.


I got my boys doing it every other day in my fertile period so I guess DH abstained for 1 day. I wouldn't suggest every other day this cycle for you as you need to get some more attempts in but if you have future cycles it is worth thinking about.

[True Blue]

O+12 doesn't sway girl. In fact you cannot conceive from an O+12 attempt. It s more an extra shot in case O is late to be sure you are covered.

[atomic sagebrush]

One day back to back is ok. YOu need to have 7-10 days of daily release before an attempt to sway pink (and that method doesn't even work very well)

[atomic sagebrush]

Yes, swaying boy. Thank you for replying. Am I too late to try tonight if I got my first pos OPK this morning? We were going to try tonight and then tomorrow morning.

I hope you tried last night, that was perfect. I usually have people DTD the night of pos opk, the next morning, and then again the following night.

Don't worry about hitting O+12 timing, it doesn't work anyway. The only reason why anyone ever did was because it is done with one attempt and one attempt seems to be a very strong pink sway. It may actually help your sway to be in with 3 attempts anyway. For our pink swayers, they got 70-75% pink with one attempt, this fell to 60% with two attempts, and all the way down to 40% pink with three (so that means that even pink swayers doing tons of other things to sway, were still getting 60% boys with three attempts!!)

Here is the case against O+12 http://genderdreaming.com/forum/tryi...9-no-12-a.html

[atomic sagebrush]

O+12 doesn't sway girl. In fact you cannot conceive from an O+12 attempt. It s more an extra shot in case O is late to be sure you are covered.

exactly!! If you really did have an O+12 attempt remember if the egg had showed it would most likely have been fertilized by the other earlier shots in the meantime! If you O later than you think, that third attempt both raises odds of blue and also covers you for a whole nother day.